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Emotional Miscarriage

I received this email today from a lady who used the Confirm Clearly pregnancy test

I wish I had read your blog before buying this test. I was unaware of this company's irresponsibility and had a false positive result.

Unfortunately for me, it coincided with what turned out to be a very late period and I thought I had a miscarriage! I'm sure that you can imagine the emotional rollercoaster that my husband and I and our families have been on.

We have been trying to get pregnant for several months, so of course when we found out and all the other signs were there (which were actually symptoms of my late period) we were elated and told our families.

Now I feel humiliated and devestated and am too embarrassed to even let anyone outside of my husband and I know the truth. WE WENT THROUGH A MISCARRIAGE! Our family thought we had a miscarriage!

I found out about the false positive from my doctor from blood work she did. Anyway, that is my story. Thank-you for sharing yours and feel free to post this ~ best wishes~ Laurie

Laurie, my heart went out to you as I read your email. I know first-hand what an awful experience it can be to get a false-positive from one of these tests.

Emotionally (if not physically, as well!), miscarriages are traumatic. Add to that the embarrassment and humiliation of being deceived/mistaken, the disappointment and devastation of not being pregnant after all, the sadness and hurt of realising that your whole pregnancy was "nothing", and the frustration at the fact that women are still unknowingly using these tests and experiencing emotional trauma as a result.

It is truly a difficult experience to go through, and we will keep you in our prayers. Recovery from a miscarriage doesn't happen overnight. 

Friends, please continue to spread the word about the defective "Confirm Clearly" pregnancy tests to others. I was excited when I heard that these tests were being voluntarily recalled by the company (see here and here). Unfortunately, it seems they are still being sold (see here) and women are still getting false-positive results after using tests they have bought. I know I personally stashed the tests in the cabinet for a number of weeks before using them. I had no idea that they could be defective until after we started announcing that we were expecting.

Thank you so much to those of you who have told others in email or through your journals and blogs about this issue. I have tried to reach as many people as possible with the information that these tests are faulty. I don't want even one more person to have to experience an emotional miscarriage because of the Confirm Clearly pregnancy tests. Thanks for helping to spread the word.

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previous poster's emotional miscarriage

I'm writing to comment about the lady who wrote about her experience with the false positive on the pregnancy test and the subsequent emotional miscarriage. First of all, I'm really sorry she had to go through that. It's devastating to feel like you've lost a child. I just wanted to let you and your readers know that there is a great book called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" that has been so helpful to me. It is extremely detailed in its description of how the female body works throughout the childbearing years and beyond and teaches you how to chart your cycles through your basal body temperature and cervical fluid. Through using this charting method (which you can use to either avoid or achieve pregnancy, or just to be aware of what your body is doing) my husband and I have gotten pregnant twice with no difficulties and have been able to tell I was pregnant even days before my missed period because of the temperature patterns that had developed. In fact, there was once that I know that I miscarried, but if I hadn't been charting, I would have just thought it was a 2 day late period. Another time I had a late period but wasn't even thinking I was pregnant because again, due to charting my temperature, I knew that I had ovulated several days late (which is very common under stressful situations). I highly recommend this book to any woman, whether she's trying to have a baby or not...because it is such helpful information that can really eliminate some unnecessary heartache and even medical bills for infertility and other issues. Not to say that the book cures everything, but there are definitely some issues that couples face that just some education could help them avoid.
Best wishes.

thanks for the advice

Because I am in my thirties and wanted to get on the ball trying, I did start out charting my basal temps. I did this for two months but I started to feel so consumed by trying to get pregnant and feeling stress over it, that I decided to stop doing anything that put attention around it and live my life normally. So far that hasn't worked either! How long did you have to chart your temps for before you could see a pattern? I know that if I don't get pregnant soon, that I should probably go back to charting mine, but in my previous experience I had a hard time seeing a similarity between the two months. Maybe I should buy the book!

Charting the temperatures

Charting the temperatures isn't enough...because basically it will only tell you when you've already ovulated, and you want to try before that! You also have to closely monitor your fluid (don't want to get too graphic here!). Some months it can be hard to find similarities, especially if you've had a lot of stress or illness. It may take at least 4 or 5 months to compare to really get a sense of what's normal for you. Anyways, I highly recommend the book because it is a wealth of information. Check it out at the library if you don't want to pay for it without seeing it first! It even has sample charts you can copy in the back of the book.

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Billing's Ovulation Method

Many have heard of Basal Temperature and the Rhythm Method (Q: What do you call married people who use the Rhythm Method? A: Parents... ok, old joke), but not quite well known is the Billing's Ovulation Method. This may be what you are referring to when you said "fluids". This method has been proven to be effective for natural family planning (both for attempting conception and avoidance). There is even a free a couple websites dedicated to providing information on BOM. And my meager experience with their literature is they are pro-marriage and pro-breastfeeding as well as having some Christian literature (but I am not an expert on all their literature and origins, so take that with a grain of salt). Anyhow, thought I would toss this info out to those interested in the topic.

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Taking Charge of Your Fertility

Rebekah, thanks for all the great information! I have heard many good recommendations for the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" and have been interested in learning more. I first heard about it after I was pregnant with Yehoshua (about 3 years ago), and since that time have only been fertile once (right before I got pregnant with Eliyahu!). So, we'll see! :)

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